TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

LOVE SCANDALS 
 
IMMATURE, TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Join me today as we focus on toxic relationships in the universities and see the way forward.

We all feel good when someone says that they love us. Love has been there and anyone can love us whether our families, friends, classmates and workmates. Love comes with a ton of beautiful things that we all tend to admire. These tokens of love include marriages, long-lasting friendships, unity. Without love amongst us, no peace would ever prevail in the society.  

Similarly, love may tend to be toxic. Toxic love may include unrequited love, where one party loves the other party and the love is not reciprocated.  Unfortunately, such love happens to be dominating in the present world.   People have been chained in such relationships where they suffer physically, emotionally, and even mentally, with everything seeming to be alright with them. The most vulnerable group, as statistics has shown, happens to be the young people aged between 18 to 35 years. Sadly, our universities serve as the hub of all this.

Students are getting into relationships which drain them of their sanity. We have let our stays in the university be measured by the intimate relationships we are having.  A very crude metric we have chosen to live by.   Most students are trying so hard to live by this. As a result, most of them push harder or rather, force such relationships to work in their favour.  As a result of this, we have all seen or heard the consequences. The most common result has been murder. Cases of murders out of “love” in the universities have been more frequent than the attendance of most students to their lectures.  A trend that has been on the rise for quite some time now.

 

 Why are the numerous murder cases? Well, trust has been a major issue in these immature relationships. Few are loyal to their partners and this is considered to be the most stupid thing that happens in campus relationships.  Being cheated has become a common thing and nowadays anyone is ready for that because there is no trust anymore. Students think having more than one partner is the best thing because they call it 'back up' whereby when you're heartbroken, at least you have another option to run to. Such a rotten school of thought most subscribe to. Poor us!

Suicide has also been witnessed as an effect of defective relationhips. This is caused by depression which builds up in the process of participating in a venomous relationship. Also, our judgemental society pushes most students to commit suicide since they have no one to confide in and tell them of their problems.  Society happens to look at such students as failures and useless, probably rubber-stamping  the feelings they have been having. Hope is lost from this, turning to the closest solution, suicide.  

Relationships, truth be told, are not for the faint hearted. Too much is expected from BOTH partners participating in a relationship. One is expected to play their part in the best way they can.  Often, most students find this too much. Too much pressure is exerted on them since they are not in  position to act dutifully fulfilling the demands of the association. The greatest burden that happens to affect most of them is the financial problem; much expected compared to the amount available.        

I think time is now where we(students) should either love each other genuinely or stop fooling around, toying with other people’s feelings. We have become heartless to a point where animals are better than us. Let us not date because we want money. After all, no one gives it for free unless it's your parent or some few relatives. Let us not use love to create enemity because in true love no one kills the other. Many students were heartbroken and they don't see the importance of love again. Love is not to be blamed here. The participants are to be blamed.  So cold but expecting warm results. A fantasy we ought to wake up from.









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Comments

  1. Tabantabanb.blogpost.comFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:29 AM

    Nice article...

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  2. Crochet solutionFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:31 AM

    So sad losing a soul simply because they got engaged in #toxicrelationship.

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  3. lucy leahFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:37 AM

    Nice article....

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  4. MOSHENE CHANNELFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:40 AM

    So sad its time we spread the message

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  5. Ivan MoimboFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:43 AM

    Heartbreaking of the side effects of all this..let's all learn

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  6. PERSPECTIVECHANNELFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:57 AM

    Awesome story, really catchy

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  7. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:57 AM

    Brilliant

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  8. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 1:57 AM

    Nice article

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  9. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 2:09 AM

    I think we students should stop fooling ourselves around and make right decisions ,if is to love then love genuinely if not leave it with heist

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  10. JEDIEL SILVER ☯️February 23, 2020 at 2:21 AM

    🔥

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  11. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 2:26 AM

    You're very right my dear... We should not rush into relationships that will ruine and hurt one and ends up commiting suicide

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  12. Josh oketchFebruary 23, 2020 at 2:36 AM

    You bring it out so true..

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  13. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 2:41 AM

    Niiiice

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  14. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 2:41 AM

    True story, it's great

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  15. Joy NzangiFebruary 23, 2020 at 2:43 AM

    Wooow so educative 🔥

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  16. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 2:57 AM

    Quiet an encouraging lecture .

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  17. Irungu FrancisFebruary 23, 2020 at 3:07 AM

    🔥🔥

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  18. SHANK TASH.BLOGSPOT.COMFebruary 23, 2020 at 3:36 AM

    Great article..youths should be keen on their relationships

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  19. Langat NathanFebruary 23, 2020 at 4:07 AM

    Yes we should learn a lesson from this

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  20. JOURNALIST DR.PHILIP OUMAFebruary 23, 2020 at 4:14 AM

    I think even the blind in mind are eble to derive a vivid lesson from this.

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  21. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 7:35 AM

    A great piece calling for individual reflection and correction. Thank you Bil!

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  22. UnknownFebruary 23, 2020 at 11:57 AM

    People expect too much from relationships nowadays. Everyone wants to live "life"they watch on screens.

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  23. MICHAL AHENDAFebruary 23, 2020 at 10:20 PM

    Let's learn to let go because this is not of the things that makes a relationship toxic

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  24. Fresh UpdtesFebruary 23, 2020 at 11:42 PM

    Nice one,

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  25. Abebe M February 24, 2020 at 1:23 AM

    Ooooh pole ..don't be scared

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  26. BERYL ORIAREFebruary 24, 2020 at 2:57 AM

    True love normally is seen leave alone this ones

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  27. Elizabeth BahatiFebruary 24, 2020 at 8:03 PM

    I thought love builds?..it saddens me in that the same love has become the core root of deaths around us...

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  28. BETT KIPKORIRFebruary 24, 2020 at 10:16 PM

    I declare it a National disaster Governor. Lets take it to another level

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  29. UnknownOctober 11, 2020 at 7:58 AM

    Kudos

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